Focuss on the small stuff. (Dec 2020)

 

I've just had it brought to my attention again that we live in unusual times. Unprecidented times in fact.

All my posts pre March this year are to do with my normal. Coping with what's normal for me.  Trying to muddle through bringing 2 boys up, hopefully without the kids or myself going totally crazy. Slip into the mix my struggles with MS and my husband, who is amazing ( but I do sometime believe did come from Mars ) and you get my normal. Stressful, fulfilling, sometimes sad, often happy.

Since mis March 2020, you will find a difference. Mine, and everyone else's version of normal has changed. Things are not normal. And they havnt been for some time.

Coping with all that the pandemic has shoved on us, changed, taken away, has been an extra element you have to balance. Home schooling whilst working,  more family time (brilliant, but 8 months in a row can have it's stresses), stepping down from work, moving. All stressful. And the pandemic continues. The tiers continue to rise. The lock downs keep on coming.
The stress comes from every angle and you don't even realise it. Not really going anywhere for 9 months takes its toll on you and the kids. I won't go on.... but I could...and probably wouldn't stop this year.. ..

A good friend realised how hard I was finding it, and instead of agreeing and giving me a virtual hug, she helped. Probably more than she knows. She gave me a structure to help me move on. Day by day...

Make sure you do 4 things a day , no need to do more. (Immediately that let me off sitting in front of Four in a Bed in the afternoon thinking I should do stuff!)

The four things:
1 thing for you.
1 thing for health.
1 thing for family.
1 thing to pamper.

Very simple, but it's got me through the week. I wrote it out for the first couple of days. Its got easier. Family is easyiest, I do that before 7.45, and many more than 1. Pampering,  I have to work on. A long shower counts at the moment. Health could be an excersise class, going for a walk or sorting out prescription orders. And the 1 for me could be a coffee and a kit Kat listening to the radio or Sat snoozing in front of the tv in the afternoon.

But the small bit of structure to start from has really helped. Focussing on the small stuff. ❤

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